Anthony Falzarano – the founder of Parents and Friends of ‘Ex-Gays’ (PFOX) – was a leading “ex-gay” spokesperson in the late 90’s. His media-friendly story was quite unique, in that he claims he was Roy Cohn’s rent boy and partied each night like it was 1999.
Falzarano’s entry into the ex-gay scene in the early 80’s has always been a little murky. In one version of his tale, God told Falzarano to go straight before the AIDS crises hit. In another version, after many of his friends had passed away, God told him to become ex-gay. In yet a third version, one of his sexual conquests felt guilty after their encounter and introduced him to Christ. Obviously, these colorful versions are contradictions and they can’t all be true.
If there is one thing about Falzarano – he is not opposed to telling a good story, the facts be damned. So, his fictional book, “Such Were Some of You: One Man’s Walk Out of the Gay Lifestyle,” is sure to be entertaining and certainly much better than Exodus’ Alan Chambers depressingly trite tome, “God’s Grace and the Homosexual Next Door.”
Falzarano holds to the empty and unsupported belief that homosexuality is caused by a young person being molested – and he pulls bogus figures out of thin air to bolster his case. Indeed, he is known to invent new percentages on the number of gay people molested from one interview to the next. The man has no scruples and honesty is just an inconvenience in his bizarre universe.
He is also a proponent of spiritual warfare, once telling CBS News, “AIDS comes from the devil, directly from Satan. He uses homosexuals as pawns and then he kills them.” Another time, he called hate crime victim Matthew Shepard a “predator to heterosexual men.”
Falzarano is now back after he was exiled by the religious right in 2000. They shunned him after he finally said something true – that the Religious Right uses ex-gays for fund raising, but actually gives the ministries scraps to do their work. I have said many times that this is because Focus on the Family and other groups know that ex-gay ministries are pure garbage and don’t want to throw good money – they could otherwise spend at the mall – down the ex-gay rat hole.
After his banishment, Falzarano tried to get things together on his own by forming a new ministry – but he was accused by Catholic University of misrepresenting himself at a conference he held there. After this debacle, Fralzarano moved from Virgina to West Palm Beach and disappeared from the ex-gay scene. His new book marks his reemergence into the fray. No doubt we will be hearing more from the irrepressible Falzarano in the coming weeks.
On a positive note, Falzarano’s act is sure to drive the leaders of Exodus – the leading ex-gay group – a little crazy. They have long viewed Falzarano as a nutty loose cannon and they never miss an opportunity to deride him. We look forward to the internal fighting Falzarano’s book will cause in the so-called “ex-gay” world.